To discuss: Who to tell, and when

When should I tell people that I’m pregnant?

You've got the positive pregnancy test in hand, and the secret is tormenting you? Have a quick conversation with your partner. The things to discuss are WHEN and the WHO - you don't need to decide on the HOW yet. 

When do you both want to share the happy news? Many people wait until after the first doctor appointment, which confirms pregnancy (more on the first appointment soon). If you're a more private person and wouldn't want to share news of a chemical pregnancy or miscarriage, even with close family, then you should wait until the 12-week point, when the liklihood is lower. Honestly, when you share the news is up to you - but make sure you and your partner are on the same page! If you’ve had any slips on being a “united front” in front of friends and family, now is the time to rededicate yourself to the cause, before bebe is around!

When it comes to the WHO, I recommend a tiered approach, and you can have the discussion about the tiers now. 

• Tier 1 = close family/friends who you'd also be willing to share news of something going wrong. 

• Tier 2 = your next layer of friends/family - people who were (or would be) in your wedding is a good starting point, extended family, anyone who would be offended to hear the news from anyone else. Your employer likely falls in this group. 

• Tier 3 = Everyone else, including people who you won't go out of your way to tell, but who might find out from an aunt, for example. 

Discuss this with your partner, and make a check-list (I recommend making a note in your phone). Save the check-list because you'll need it again when it's time to alert people that your little bundle has arrived!